Dealing with the Picky
If I get someone who’s constantly nitpicking decisions, a great way to handle that is a response similar to the following:
“You know, that’s a good point. I wasn’t thinking along those lines when I made the design because of [insert justification for your reasoning]. I’m confident that I’m taking the right approach, but if you’d like we can do some testing with our users to see what they like best.”
Ultimately, we are a user-driven profession. We should have the mindset of letting the user guide our design and development at all times, but the above response is confident enough and provides enough justification that you’ll either get one of two responses from the overly-picky in your group:
1.) "Eh, nevermind. It’s not that big of a piece anyway."
2.) “Okay, let’s do that. Let me know what the outcome is.”
Probably 8 times out of 10, you’ll hear the first.
Handling the Overall Situation
I’m behind @HAWK and @quantumcloud. You and your boss need to talk.
You’re still early in your position here, and there’s still time to set expectations. That goes for both your boss and for you. If you set the precedent now that it’s okay for them to forget their promises, second guess, micro-manage, and nitpick your work, you’ll be going through that for as long as you’re there.
Life’s too short to live that kind of work hell.
You were hired for your knowledge and expertise. Experience means squat. If you can do the work, you deserve the pay - and the respect - that come with your job title. Stand up for yourself and ask for what’s yours. You won’t get it any other way.
That doesn’t mean the conversation needs to be adversarial. Be polite, remind your boss of your skills and his/her promise. Be respectful, but direct.
I agree with QC that, in most situations, it’s best to try and stick with a job for at least a year. I’m not going to say that you should straight-up quit, but I am going to say that there are much better jobs out there in your future.