Good on you!
I think there are a few things at play here. Firstly, if you want to be a UX designer you don’t need to know how to code, although it can be helpful. We have a pretty comprehensive list of online UX courses here, that you could try your hand at.
Your first step is probably to decide which of those roads you want to go down. Doing a couple of online coding courses to see how you enjoy it would be a good starting point. Some people love the code, others hate it. There are plenty of resources around for that. Look at Learnable, lynda.com or Treehouse. Those are all paid, but I’m sure you’ll have no trouble finding some free resources.
Your point of difference might be the fashion aspect. If you have other paid work, you could approach small businesses and offer your services very cheaply (or even free) to get some experience.
Does that give you somewhere to start?